Actually, It’s Called Being a Wuss

Some sad 2017 Swedish ” feminists” wearing their pussy hats

At a posh party in St Mary’s Bay last weekend, I met a young, blond, straight white male who lamented how much masculinity as a concept is now under attack.

Every day, he felt, he was bombarded with Facebook posts telling him how evil men are, and news stories furthering an agenda to kill traditional masculinity.

Men are now seen as unacceptable, he said, if they’re not overly sensitive or they still believe in gender roles.

From this (albeit na?ve) point of view, I see where he is coming from. If you’re a straight white male in 2017 then you probably do feel like your identity is under siege.

Not really. I don’t listen to idiots on Twitter, or Facebook for that matter, who try to re-define what gender means.

You’re lectured about something called “privilege”, you can’t get away from female empowerment memes and GIFs, and week after week, there’s another celebrity talking about how we, as men, are antiquated and need to change.

Heh. Is this why so many more men want to?be women than women want to be men?

Why do guys feel this way? Because masculinity, as a concept, is fragile. It’s quite the paradox, considering the connotations of strength and power that masculinity is supposed to yield.

This is exemplified in the way some straight men approach gay men when compared to how the average straight woman approaches lesbians.

Male homosexuality can be seen as a challenge to masculinity ? that’s why you’ll often hear young guys say “no homo” when showing any kind of physical or emotional affection for each other. Straight women, in contrast, don’t often feel lesbianism is a threat to femininity.

Why is it that women aren’t generally afraid of being thought of as “gay”, but many men are? Because we are taught, as boys, to behave in certain ways.

When I was at school a girl being called a lesbo was just as bad as boy being called a fag, if not worse.

We are forced to like blue not pink; trucks not Barbies; rugby not netball; muscles, strength, and brute force not intellectualism, thoughts, and feelings.

Not forced to. It’s called genetic predisposition. As in, like, science.

[…]?Yet the reality is, this stereotype is so flawed and unattainable (newsflash, men have emotions) that is forces guys into a state whereby we’re on the constant lookout for threats. Anything that challenges who we’ve been told to be needs to be shut down.

[..]?I realise and appreciate the benefit of being male. I also acknowledge that being a man is to be weak, afraid, and to carry around a feeling of inferiority amongst your peers.

Well unless I have very good reason to be I don’t feel weak or afraid. And I don’t carry around feelings of inferiority. I don’t believe other regular Whaleoil readers do either (maybe it’s just a Left-wing thing).

These subtle (or not so subtle) attempts to wussify masculinity will never work and will only end up backfiring. Women and I believe this as much as I believe the earth revolves around the sun and Donald Trump is the greatest President since Ronald Reagan, want men to be men, period. They don’t want men who are going on about how they are in “touch with their emotions”. They don’t want a man who will happily listen to how her boss hurt her feelings. After all, that’s what girlfriends are for.

Masculinity isn’t going anywhere despite the best efforts of those who see it as oppressive and toxic. And next time you hear about a fireman risking his life to save a young girl from a burning house, or a policeman putting his life in danger to catch an armed criminal, you can thank God that it’s true.

– NZ Herald