Ardern’s marriage plans

It is impossible to resist commenting on that cringeworthy interview the prime minister gave during her overseas sojourn in Britain this week. The interview was more suited to a cheap women?s weekly rag because, unfortunately, BBC journalist Victoria Derbyshire aimed at the gutter with her interview titled ?Jacinda Ardern asked in BBC interview if she plans to propose to her partner?.

Are we a laughing stock in Britain? If we weren?t before, we probably are now. There are questions the Brits might want to put to our prime minister, but the PM’s marriage plans are probably not one of them.

Derbyshire could have said “Do you think Theresa May will survive Brexit?” or “Are you concerned about the boatload of refugees who set off from India bound for New Zealand?” or maybe “Are you concerned that New Zealand is out of step with some other Commonwealth countries on the UN Global Compact?”  Nope, nothing of international import was reported. Quote.

Concluding the interview Derbyshire asked Ardern whether she had any plans to propose to her long-term partner Clarke Gayford, who is the father to their child, and a fishing presenter on New Zealand television.

The prime minister laughed loudly at the awkward question, seemingly surprised, and then answered: ?No I would not ask, no.? End of quote.

Long term partner? I guess five years is long term by today?s standards: not by mine though, not when she’s nudging 40. Quote.

Don’t be fooled, Ardern did not actually find this funny. Her laughing was a ploy to convey nonchalance and gather her thoughts. She must have been furious at the question. How demeaning. There is only one answer she can actually give. If she says ?Of course I would? then the next question will be ?Well, why haven?t you asked him then?? For all we know, she already has asked and been turned down. Not a good look for a person of power.  She had no choice but to deny, which doesn’t fit with her feminist image. Quote.

?You?re a feminist?? replied Derbyshire. ?Oh absolutely, absolutely I am a feminist? said Ardern.

?But no, I want to put him through the pain and torture of having to agonise about that question himself, that?s letting him off the hook, absolutely not.? End of quote.

Gotta give credit for being nimble on her feet and staying in control but she makes Gayford look like a weak hanger-on with no desire to commit. Derbyshire wisely backs off. Quote.

?Ok, fair enough,? said Derbyshire. ?We await that day.? End of quote.

No, we are not sitting around waiting. Any interest in the prime minister?s domestic life is more like “how long will she keep this pretense of a normal life before Gayford scarpers and she is a single mum?” Relationships don?t build themselves you know, they take time, commitment and energy ? all of which she is expending on her job for which she is handsomely paid. Yeah, yeah, life is not fair, but she made her choices. Quote.

Ardern was also questioned on how she juggles running a country and being a new Mum, and whether she experiences ?guilt? regarding the balancing act.

Ardern said it was ?sometimes a struggle? but it was giving her a valuable and ?insightful? experience that was more closely akin to how regular women juggled their work and family responsibilities.? End of quote.


Does our prime minister expect us to believe she is a regular woman with a regular job? My guess is that, more times than not, life is a struggle. She won’t admit to it but it’s written by the frown lines that sprouted after she became a working mum. She’s nuts if she thinks Gayford is going to sit around minding the baby until she comes home from her jaunts to pick up the pieces. Something’s gotta give, and I?m guessing it will be Gayford.? Not that I wish that on them at all, just being realistic about her choices going forward. Politics or family…. politics or family?